Yup- the talk. You know that one... THAT one... about "YOU-KNOW-WHAT."
In all of my child development classes at BYU, I was taught to be open and honest about
ess-ee-ex with kids. Tell them the truth when asked questions. You don't have to tell them EVERYTHING when they are just asking about something small, but never lie, and most of all, NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER act embarrassed or uncomfortable. Also, they said that you should have talked to your kids about sex before they ever hear it from anyone else. Make sure that they know the truth, and hold it sacred, before they hear jokes and lewd comments and don't know what to believe, and are too embarrassed to ask about it.
So, Along the way Jaxon has asked questions about this or that, and the jist of what he has asked about and knows is that our bodies are sacred, expecially our private parts, and that babies are made when the dad's seed and the mom's egg come together in the mom's tummy. He has never asked how it gets there, so we have not shared that information yet.
So....where is all this leading? Dave and I wanted him to hear the actual word.
THE WORD.
THE "S" WORD.
S
E
X
...from us, before he heard it from anyone else. So tonight at family night, we decided it was the time. We have been leading up to this by talking a lot about the word "sacred" and what it means. So tonight, we talked about being a good friend in order to make good friends when he goes to school, and then we geared up, we took a deep breath, and we did it.
I reminded Jaxon about the seed and the egg, told, reminded, re-reminded and then RE-REMINDED him about how sacred this word was, and then we said it- SEX.
He was completely unimpressed, and UNINTERESTED! So anticlimatic!
We talked about how he might hear other kids talk about it, who don't know how sacred and special it is, and they might laugh or make fun, but it's becuase they don't understand. And we told him that if that ever happens, he just doesn't need to be involoved because he actually knows what it is and how special it is.
Then we finished with the fact that this....this WORD....is not something we talk about with other people. Just our family.
And then, the kicker- the statement that really outlines how the whole conversation went...
Jaxon says...
"How could I talk about it with anyone??? I FORGOT WHAT WE WERE TALKING ABOUT!"
So glad we could have this serious talk buddy. thanks.
5 comments:
Laugh out loud hilarious, and so like Jaxon. So funny. I do like your approach and may use it one day, though, so thanks for the long version. Good old Jaxon. P.S. Come visit us in October!
bahhaaaaaa
I have to have the real talk with my 9 year old, I was supppoed to do it last year and we kept putting it off. but we have to before school starts.
I hope it goes like yours
What a hoot!! He is just in love with life and all that it brings. I adore that boy--
HAHA! That's awesome!! Hopefully he'll still be this way when he's 17!
I love your outlook on this...so much like my family...maybe because my dad is an OBGYN:) too funny about his reaction...so like us parents to think something is going to be a bigger deal than it really is.
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